A love letter to you

A love letter (a coincidence, but a nice one on Valentine’s Day) to you.

Lately, I’ve been reflecting on honesty. Can you truly be completely honest with yourself? What are your deepest desires, your greatest fears, darkest thoughts, your most hidden wishes? Do you dare to face what truly lives inside you, without holding back?

Everyone has desires, fears, needs and shame. Every emotion and sensation you feel is valid. You don’t have to suppress them or let them go. Shame only leads to rejecting parts of yourself, and rejecting yourself means not allowing yourself to fully be who you are.

But what if you truly looked within, without judgment? Slowing down, taking deep breaths, without distractions, feeling, in that silence, what your inner world is telling you. Maybe it has been screaming at you for a while. Could you then share what you feel and need with those closest to you (your tribe), your inner circle? Your best friend(s), your partner, a parent, a family member? You only need one person with whom you feel completely safe, no matter how you show up. Do you dare to speak your truth without shame, in full honesty, as the authentic person you are, so that this person (or people) knows what you need? A different direction? More support? A bold new move? Or a scary but necessary decision?

It can feel extremely terrifying to take that first step, to give yourself permission to open up. But in that vulnerability lies immense strength. Do you feel like something is missing? Speak about it. Do you long for something? Be honest with yourself and acknowledge it. It. is. okay. Take small steps to share. By opening up and discussing it, you’re not only being honest with yourself, you’re also giving others the chance to be there for you. To listen. To help you explore possibilities. But true honesty starts with yourself, and it doesn’t have to stay with you alone. By sharing it with your loved ones, you can carry it together and support each other.

Take that first step, no matter how small. Because you deserve everything, dear you. Yes, everything. With your past, with your mistakes, with your falls and your comebacks.

And if you think I’m exaggerating? I’m not. Life is hard, yes. But that doesn’t mean you don’t deserve it all. You do. Every bit of it. You deserve complete honesty. Because honesty is love. Loving yourself enough to tell the truth. Loving yourself enough to ask for what you need. And allowing others to love you in return, in your full, unfiltered truth.

Love,
Cien